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Rhinebeck, NY      San Francisco, CA      Skype/Zoom


I work with everyone from individuals to families; from artists to trans youth; from people disturbed by the current state of the world to people doing what they can to contribute positively in their community;  from LGBTQ and straight couples to folks in unconventional relationships. Most people are in a transition of sorts—from having recently moved to the Hudson Valley to being ready for a shift.

People who work with me tend to think of me as an ally, helping them create the lives they want to live. I collaboratively draw upon people’s strengths, values, and competencies to navigate their way towards more fulfillment, freedom, purpose, and joy.

After 20 years of being curious about how people can have more authentic, meaningful, and satisfying experiences, relationships, and connections in their day-to-day lives, I graduated in 2010 with an M.A. from the Integral Counseling Psychology program at the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) in San Francisco.  At CIIS, I began to develop my own style of working with people, highly influenced by narrative therapy and mindfulness.  I love helping people discover how they can experience sustainable feelings of aliveness and more connectedness, especially in relationship to others.

I’ve studied with teachers such as Thich Nhat Hanh, Sylvia Boorstein, Anushka Fernandopulle, Pascal Auclair, Kamala Masters, Steve Armstrong, and Carol Wilson (Buddhism), George Lakoff (metaphors & cognitive science), and David Epston (narrative therapy), and received a B.A. in Literature and Philosophy from Sarah Lawrence College in 2002. For three years, I consulted weekly with an excellent Bay Area couples counselor and narrative therapist, Julia Wallace, LCSW, whose valuable perspective contributes to the thoughtfulness and skill of my work. Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Research informs my work with couples, and I have completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I also practice EMDR and have completed Level 1 & 2 of EMDR training with Laurel Parnell. Throughout 2018, I engaged in an intensive narrative therapy year-long program with Jill Freedman and Gene Combs. I continue to learn daily through my work and with an intimate group of narrative therapy colleagues in North America who share similar values.